When Basti came to Auckland, he immediately became a friend to our neighbor’s kid Anton. Basti is the type who is ’i will die for you’ loyal to only one friend at a time. He just turns his world upside down, inside out to one person. Anton is one year younger and they would walk to school everyday. When one is not around, the other would be concerned. When Basti got sick, Anton would come to the house to ‘mother’ him. Basti would let Anton play with his DS exclusively.
But 2 days before Christmas, Anton climbed and went up the garage roof playing hide and seek. Basti was concerned so he called out to let him down. When Anton went down, Basti pulled his leg which caused Anton to hit some cement that pained him. Basti felt sorry but Anton got mad because it lost him the game. Hatred followed. Basti got mad, Anton got mad. We tried to reconcile the two of them before Christmas. Insoy helped, neighbors helped, then us parents helped too. But Anton and Basti can’t be friends no more.
Basti and Anton, they were the best of friends (for a while). Today, they are not talking. I know Basti hurts and Anton hurts too. Maybe they were really not meant to be friends.
We can give it time but I know it will never be the same again. Basti is the type who never forgets hurt. He will talk about it forever if he has to. This boy will hold on to the pain forever. He is stubborn and ruthless.
I tried to intervene. Qouting him lines of friendship and forgiveness. But I also want him to learn the lesson in all of this. There are people I know who are close to me who never forget and forgive. I know the pain can consume them.
They have their reasons to feel this way. Oh well, I cannot let them be me. (just musing)
Mora ra na ug lovers’ quarrel. When school starts….magkuyog gihapon na sila. They are just kids and will definitely forget once they are back to playing again. do not force the issue kay they will not want to be reconciled by other people kay sila man ang involve sa incident. Tan-awa unya. Friends forever man gyud na, di ba?
Comment by carmencita bugash — January 6, 2009 @ 5:14 am |
i hope you are right. but si basti is not the kind who would forget and forgive. mo dumot gyud. he loves deeply but much deeper kung maglagot. will see what happens next. school is 5 weeks away.
Comment by konsuy — January 6, 2009 @ 5:30 am |
oh no! i feel for the both of them chi=) i hope basti will forgive anton and vice versa…im sure, time will heal all wounds..the only way it will be forgotten siguro is when nobody forces the issue, and let it die a natural death, para dili kaayo sila self-conscious that everyones’watching them..=)
Comment by chelo — January 6, 2009 @ 12:18 pm |
thanks chel. will give it time. i hope both of them comes out of this as a better person and a better friend. gahapon, basti played at the park when anton played in front of the house. naglikay gyud si basti niya.
Comment by konsuy — January 6, 2009 @ 11:20 pm |